Is Life Always Worth Living?

     Neither am I sadist nor a depressed soul to come up with such a weird topic to write on!
 I too want to be happy, wish to narrate about the happy times I have always imagine to have and to come up with the the Hollywood movies ending titles -live happily ever after but I don't know why I always end up in everlasting tears, unbearable pain and unforgettable dreading memories.I have tried a lot investigate the reason behind such a miserable condition of my life but have been a sore loser all the times but I won't sit still until and unless I find the reason for the flaws,my smile possess,misery,my life and destiny is into and the unlucky allure ,attracting me into precarious situations,I fall into,knowingly or unknowingly !

   Life is like a road ,sometimes smooth sometimes rough.To assume it will always run according to our wishes, is simply foolishness but to lose all hopes for it to at-least mold according to our desires is being more foolish.Life ain't rocket's science either.Every coin has two faces,both being so indifferent yet constituting up the identity of the coin and so is with life.If it's showing you its bare fangs today then one should wait for the cosy hug that is sure to follow.you just got to be patient for the right moment to come.Life without a purpose is a journey without a destination.With no aim in life,no boundaries to mention your needs,no limitations on your desires and no parameter for your gratification, one can never be happy.

       Sometimes in life the degree of hardships extend to the effect that everything seems to be coming to an end.Hopes,wishes,faith and even desire to live decays.The pitiful and only condition of living this life is, no matter what you face,you got to face it all.Troubles don't knock seeking your society status or your mental status,they just strike.Welcome them with a smile or depression ,is your choice.At times the whole concept of living,doing things even smiling seems to be futile but the truth doesn't goes like that my friend.Life may seem to be the painful experience but with pain comes relief and hope.Hope to live life in a much better way,be happy by doing good to others,peace by appreciating others qualities.It's just a matter of interpreting things from a optimistic perspective.pessism - optism, negativity - positivity, darkness - brightness etc are some antonym pairs which start with negative words but end with positive words.

         Life has been the greatest virtue ever known to human race, the greatest gift by God which comes in so many colorful packages, yet all that we see,are the gray shades, it holds! But the question is WHY? 

Why we humans leave no stone unturned to corrupt God's Angelic plans, and ourselves fall, knowingly all the time, into the pit of self pity, yet blame God, destiny, circumstances for all the frightful happenings in our lives.A student fails a test, blame goes on God, boy breaks up with a girl, God is questioned, failure in business or job, God is held responsible, why?Until when are we going to simply escape the truth, the truth that we, ourselves are solely responsible for whatsoever happens with us.Destiny do plays a role, in certain way but the major part is only and always because of our own past deeds or future planned actions.Putting blame on others won't do anything but simply introduce agony, depression and emptiness in life.Who is it that we are fooling by doing so? Who? None but us, our self! God helps those who help themselves, old but very true.So why not help our own-selves? Why be shy or ignorant of it? Help is always available to those who ask , but have to be careful what you ask for.Asking for things which you are yet not mature enough to receive or capable of attaining is something which only lead you to the grey shades of life.

    Ever thought how human race came into existence? How God came upon with an idea to create man and woman and initiate the whole life cycle? Well yes, it's too complicated to search every basic detail because Google still has certain questions yet to be answered but ever thought how we get a new day everyday and as to who has the control of all the living and non living matter known to us.Sometimes the existence of some superpower is too prominent to neglect but do we science geeks believe all that that fails to make an inverted image on our retina? Do we? Then why not believe in the Supreme Power's existence? I am not touting any religion or God but to taste the real ultimate peace of mind, one should learn to move on from the hollow materialistic things of the world.

     We all wish to be happy but one cannot be happy all the time! Even the thought of being happy every moment induces a sense of unhappiness in our mind.But what actually is the element for happiness? Money ? Love? Power? Fame? Beauty? What..? What is it that takes someone to smile.A real smile, excluding any sadness involved in any deep dark corner of the palpating heart! Many spend their whole life searching for the real thing but many acclaim to achieve it, surprisingly, at a very timid stage of life.Many cases of suicide are reported daily.Talking on moral basis, if you can't give anything, don't even expect to get anything and if you can't help out with the way you have made your life then you have no right to take it either! Because your life isn't only yours..it belongs to the people who gave you your life,your parents, it belongs to the people who make your life, your siblings, friends, strangers etc.So don't ever think of snatching the beautiful life given by others to you from them or God will never forgive you !

           Some people have all the world's comforts yet they complain to be unhappy and claim to be depressed! Is it because till now no one has been able to invent a machine that measures the degree for your pain, anguish and happiness? People allow themselves the luxury of being mad when they are in a position to do so !When one can be happy then why not be it?

    God loves us.Yes he does.We say he gives us troubles but why don't we see the solutions he provides with them?Why only the darker side of the story is most strikingly noticed and the subtle part passes away like an impasse.Spirituality may be sought as one solution for seeking inner minds peace.Having an ideal or idol, to worship infuses divine love in life.God created us and hence he helps us in our very own existence too.All we need is to trust him.Trust in his divine powers, thank him for all the kindness shown and gratitude pondered upon.Why human becomes so adamant that he refuses to believe in someone above him, above the world,above all.Why? Why can't we peacefully follow some orders which we know are for own benefit.God loves us and we should reciprocate his love too.

        To sum up, happiness requires worlds most basic and very easily available ingredients.Find someone with whom you can share your thoughts, your troubles, your happiness and your own self.Find someone whom you can count upon, irrespective of the period going in your life, happy or sad.Try making someone happy,helping someone, calming one's worries, being besides someone at hard times and happiness will come to you.Laughter is the best medicine.Live, Laugh,  make your surroundings and world a better place to live in.Troubles won't leave but at-least facing them with a smile would lessen their pain .Life is definitely a thing to rejoice, a thing to live with dignity and make the people realize this too.Hence I have found the answer,

                               "Life is certainly worth living"

To Kill A Child. . .

Assalam

Well, so this post is being written in an utter exasperation that has grown over the past 1 month. Today is the last day of our 2 months O&G (Obstetrics & Gynaecology) posting, including Labour Room, Wards and 3 days of FP(Family Planning (today, yesterday and the day before)).

While in the wards I came across ladies who were there for MTP (Medical Termination of Pregnancy) and sterilization (i.e. a tiny part of both the fallopian tubes are cut so that the lady doesn’t conceive again)and I always wondered why didn’t they simply get sterilized after their last child birth….

And if they didn’t want a baby, why not opt for contraception than actually conceiving a child and then killing it?????

Well…. My bewilderment was doubled during the last three days when ladies…absolutely fine ladies… come for MTP to the FP clinic with some lame reason like

“The previous child is too young”

“There is no one to look after the child at home”

“I am not keeping well” ………………

Alrite, reasons good enuf, maybe… but they turn lame when they are not backed by an “ATTEMPT TO PREVENT PREGNANCY” by “CONTRACEPTION”….

Contra-ception -- > Opposing Conception

There are myriad methods of contraception available ranging from permanent methods of Sterilization for both male and female to something as simple as the OCP (Oral Contraceptive Pill) and Condom.

While some people might be scared of sterilization, I don’t see why should they be opposed to other methods when, after ALLLLLLLLLLLLLL , they DO NOT WANT A BABY.

I am not writing this post opposing ‘abortions’, in general…that is not the debate here.

I am opposing the treatment of MTP as a joke.

MTP, when done for medical reasons, as when the child has been detected to have some anomaly or the mother is found to have some serious disease; or for social reasons, as when a child is conceived out of rape; or a child conceived due to failure of some contraceptive method (conceiving INSPITE of using a Copper-T or OCPs) is acceptable.

Even in cases when a lady conceives during lactational amenorrhoea, I wouldn’t say MTP is wrong.

But, otherwise, when you were absolutely fit mentally and physically… and you WERE NOT DESIROUS OF HAVING A CHILD,

WHY ON EARTH DIDN’T YOU USE SOME CONTRACEPTIVE METHOD???????

We have seen in the wards, that when you counsel a lady regarding the use of a Copper-T (which is hormone secreting intra-uterine device), they go all NOOO NOOOO as if it is something very dangerous and very immoral….

There are some other ladies who refuse sterilization coz ..well… the HUSBANDS… haven’t agreed, again, maybe coz they feel it’s immoral and dangerous.

These same ladies go and get pregnant and later come with a request for MTP…… as if THIS is something very safe and moral.

A sudden bout of bleeding can never be safe my darlings….

And wat am I to say about the ‘Morality’ of KILLING A CHILD…………..

Some women, maybe, feel that pregnancy is just a temporary cessation of her periods and what she loses by MTP is just her ‘period blood’…. They don’t realize that this is as much her child as any child she has had or may have in future. This is a child that is lost… a child that is KILLED .. it is not just a re-commencement of her menstruation….

We also come across illegal pregnancies… before marriage or out of marriage…..again, I do not understand WHY cant these girls ‘prevent’ such pregnancies. I mean we even have Morning After Pills…. Don’t they watch television?????

There is one case which I saw during my Labour Room which I shall never forget.

An around 40 yr old lady came to the LR with Labour Pains… and not the onset of Labour Pains… but it was like she will deliver in no time. The Fetal Heart couldn’t be localized and an IUD (Intra-Uterine Death) was confirmed. A C-Section was done and a swollen, infected Huge Dead Fetus was removed.

This lady’s husband passed away many yrs ago… she works as a maid… conceived illegally….never told anyone bout the conception….ppl ignored the growing abdomen coz she was as such fat…. She didn’t go for ante natal check ups… nothing… must have.. MUST HAVE… felt the foetal movements which she ignored… and turned up as an in labour IUD.

Why??? Tell me, why???

Do you realize that there are couples in this world who can sell their all just to have a child?

There are young girls who have undergone hysterectomies for unavoidable reasons and can never have a child?

Do you realize that infertility has increased so much more in our times???

If you realize all this, do not take your ‘fertility’ for granted.

Do not conceive a child that you are not desirous of.

CHOOSE  CONTRACEPTION  OVER  MURDER.

Please.

Allah hafiz

Life ( contd. )

New experiments with same old results ...

Six Word Stories

Life Now?

Our mistake.
Realization dawns.
Life restarts.


Hey WL, up for another Six Word Story chain, this time on Life??

Love is Life

Its Life that brings us together

Its Love that binds us together

Love this Life

Live your Love

For, Life Alone is Beautiful!

One More Time

Say it again, Oh Baby! Say it again
Let me be clear, Let me hear it again
Let me see my world fall apart
Oh Baby! Let me witness my part

I tell you I am not strong
But I know, I have to take this along
I know the words you will convey
Oh Baby, but if you should, then you may

Don't hide it, don't fake it anymore
Go if you want to, just say it once more
Don't worry if it will hurt, if it will pain
You see Dear! It's about love and loss, not gain

So, Say it again, Oh Baby! Say it again
Let me be clear, Let me hear it again

It's not easy, to see this fall
But it's harder, to carry this all
So It's better, you kill me right here
Oh baby, Don't bother about every year




When I look down in your eyes, today
I see no place, nowhere for me to stay
I knew you would leave me, somehow
It's a bit early Dear, But if it is, let it be now

So, Say it again, Oh Baby! Say it again
Let me be clear, Let me hear it again

And while you walk down the other way
For one last time, let me ask you this straight
You remember, the day when you came
Was it only to hurt me, all over again?

Set Yourselves Free

After witnessing the first decade of the most wondrous millennium that has radically changed the entire structure of human relationships, we now move on towards a new page in the book of our lives – Twenty10.

Life goes on, as it always did. As a Mumbaikar, I sometimes find myself stuck in traffic, sometimes in rain and other times in riots and blasts. And to a more personal level the tyranny of fate always puts me in a situation where I have to choose between the ‘right’ and the ‘truth’. We live, with hope in our hearts; a hope for a better tomorrow. And the tomorrow which we hope so much for, never comes. We mess up today because of the shadows of our yesterday and the fears of our tomorrow. And then all of a sudden we realise that we are just out of time. Let us promise ourselves that for all the coming years we shall live our life with focus on our present. As rightly quoted, Life is not measured by the number of times you breathe but by the number of times your breath is taken away. Live, share, love and touch the hearts of everyone you meet. Fly in the expanse of the blue sky and let your wings feel the cool air. Set yourselves free.

With this first post of mine in the Writers Lounge, I hope to connect with all you great minds and share a few of my scribbled posts. Wish you all a very Happy and Prosperous New Year.

The Requiem..!

Tell me what has become of me?
I see the green but I don't see the red,
Silent dreams that are left unsaid.
My dreams have faded black.
I am left aside, put in the limelight,
and left aside again.
Oh! the path seems lonely,
My Lord heal the hurt and pain.
I lose my pride bit by bit,
In that moment that crept by.
I long for that feeling,
That feeling of eternity.
My soul seems unrest and grieving.
By the constant lack of sensibility.
Wonder if I have lost the reason,
to everything and for everyone.
I saw you cry,
I saw you survive.
But I am barely through.
I dig my way in most of the time.
Hope you don't mind.
After all I become blind.
from time to time.
As days pass by,
I realise, there is more to me than my pride.

Skirt

We admire the fires, in burning tyres,
we are those kings who cling to wings,

we delay, they say with all dismay,
yet we slay the ones who play with clay,

we fight and fight, and bite at night,
and we slice the mice with sharpened dice,

we mock who wears frocks and socks,
and we blog on fogs, dogs and frogs,

we run the mill with solid will,
and we want to kill the ills but still,

we bust and burst the crust of dust,
and we irked and worked and never shirked,

we greet with plates when we meet the mates,
when we walk through gates we walk through dates,

we create, we state, we contemplate,
yet we ate the bait of gory fate!

(More poems at Clear Like Clarity)

Mithya

(A poem I wrote very long back, but the poem which i still truly believe in)

मिथ्या

क्या है जीवन, क्या है लक्ष्य,
क्या है इस जीवन का लक्ष्य,
क्या है इन श्वासों का मतलब,
क्या वह जीवन व्याख्या है?

अजब है अचरज, अजब अचंभा,
इस दुनिया का गोरखधंधा,
जिस आयाम में रहता है,
अनभिज्ञ उसी से रहता है,
जिस नौका में बहता है,
नही जानता वह क्या है।

जीबन क्या है नही जानता,
जीना क्या है नही जानता,
जीवन जीना आखिर क्या है,
पूरा जीवन नही जानता।

सत्य की खोज में जाता है,
दिग्भ्रम हर क्षण पाता है,
हर्षित, पूलकित, मुर्छित, चिंतित,
हर भाव विकल कर जाता है।

सोता है उठ जाता है,
उठकर फिर सो जाता है,
हर सुर्य अस्त हो जाता है,
हर पूष्प इक दिन मुरझाता है,
मानव जन्म जो पाता है,
हर ऍक क्रिया दोहराता है।

सोमवार से रविवार तक,
रविवार से शनिवार तक,
वर्ष के बारह मास में रहता,
जीवन के हर वर्ष को सहता,
क्षण क्षण करके दिन है बनता,
दिन दिन वर्ष बन जाता है।

ना यह है विधि का विधान,
ना कोई ईश्वर आज्ञा है,
मां की गोद से चिता की अग्नि,
यही बस जीवन व्याख्या है।

Chess..A Game of Life..!!!

Grid of squares,White and Black ,
whooping in the Battle field to attack..
Waiting in the Combat Zone are Rooks and Bishops,
They stand upright,
Warrior, thou strong,
Crossing and Moving Ahead,
Fearing no one around...
Facing the King and Queen are standing Knights,
Big and Powerful,
Undefeated,they stand out from the rest,
Jumping and Checking,Just keep fighting...
Preceding them all are Pawns,
Willing for Reincarnation,
Always,they bow to bleed,
Striving to win by power,
Neglected,thou size...
Game of Life, it's a Game to survive,
Game of obsession, to play with passion.
Boggling mind, and Challenges sublime,
Killing moves, defending the self,
Trapping the opponent's king,
ends with Magical 2 words,
CheckMate..!!!

Being twenty something

Being twenty something

A friend recently sent me a forward on maturing in life…Sharing part of it…

As I mature…

I’ve learnt that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is stalk them and hope they panic and give in.

I’ve learned that no matter how much I care, some people are just assholes.

I’ve learned that it takes years to build up trust and it only takes suspicion, not proof, to destroy it.

I’ve learned that you shouldn’t compare yourself to others, they are more screwed up than you think.

I’ve learned that we are responsible for what we do, unless we are celebrities.

It was a forward that touched a chord (unlike the hundreds that irritate you). If you thought only teenage is a difficult time, then wait till you get into your twenties. That is the time when all your notions of right and wrong, all your beliefs of happily ever afters and picture perfect bonds get shaken up. Suddenly you wake up to a world of new realities, which are far different from the idealistic picture education gives you of the world.

I have spent most of my twenties away from home studying and working. And having to juggle changes within and around you all on your own is something all my friends would agree has been the greatest challenge. You want to succeed at everything you do and nothing seems to happen as fast as you want it to. Some of your dreams get fulfilled, some become nightmares and some are broken irreversibly. You want to be serious and you also want to have fun with your new found freedom. You want lasting relationships and you want material success. It’s a decade when you are left wanting and trying and you look at people who have crossed that age and wonder if you will ever get to be as self assured as they seem to be right now (but like the forward says, they could be screwed up too).

It’s a time when you could start to make your own decisions and not believe that parents always know better (and sometimes they don’t). And when you do make your own decisions for the first time, chances are you might make many mistakes and as you are no longer a child there comes the responsibility that all of us non-celebrities have to take. Its probably the first time in your own life that you really, truly get out of the crowd and get to know yourself and your mettle. And you could either like yourself or hate yourself.

Well you might ask what is the point of all this. Just that as I sat back and looked at the last five years, I realised, I am no longer the dreaming school girl from Rajkot. My friends have changed, my likes and dislikes are different, my bond with my parents is different, my take on love and commitment is different (read no more Mills and Boon anymore :-P) I have done things I never thought I would do both good and bad and at the end of it all, I know I have learnt a lot. I still am not the kind of self assured that some of the people I know are, but I know I am on the way to it. And I just wanted to tell all my friends in their twenties that some day we shall all sit back and laugh at these crazy times and look at them fondly like our parents right now look at the era of 60’s and 70’s. We shall all get together someday and toast to these days that showed us how much shit we could take and yet give back our best. Happy 20’s all you guys out there. We, the freaks, shall inherit the earth J (SIMC 07 tagline).

LIFE...!!!

Beauty
Is not the world
It’s the heart you live with
Enjoy it as the way you see
Its life..!!!

Know more about Cinquain Here..!!!

Quo Vadis, Homo Sapiens?

An old post revisited :)

I have been much occupied with reading a few old Tamil classics over the last few days and it has transported me back to the way of life back in 900AD circa.

The lifestyles were plenty back then; from the life of a dedicated gardener whose life would be spent in the gardens supplying flowers every day for the temple nearby to the life of a hardened soldier who had endure various troubles to uphold his honour and allegiance to his king.

The choices for these men were made during their birth and work flowed from one generation to another. Yet some men braved the society and broke free to choose their own destiny. Many had failed while some succeeded to reach great heights.

Upon reading such tales of success and grandeur, it was hard to note the role played by religion and violence. Wars and Rituals ruled and affected the life of everyone in a country let alone the tactical conspiracies that our ancestors were so famous for.

It makes more sense to see the world as it is now filled with conflicts and war. We have evolved in many ways yet chose to retain many of our old ways. Somewhere along that road of evolution, we had lost the true meaning of life; life, as the early societies of humans would have lived where they had come together for communal harmony and development; more so for survival.

I can’t help but think that - "Life can be loved and lived in a simple way if only we all want a life that is unlike what this society has deemed it to be".

Quo Vadis, Homo Sapiens? Why don't we yearn anymore for Peace and Happiness for all the living beings around us?

Almighty !

My mind is a battlefield

War between good n the evil

Arises millions of questions

On the way so many hindrance

Two sides always juggling

Forcing me to choose one thing

Devilish choices i make

which always looks fairy like

Two kingdoms fight for me

Dark force always attracts me

But in my life God's will be done

For, My lord Will always win !

Good side telling me to go ahead

Evil side dragging me back instead

Confused with the state of mind

I am afraid of staying behind

But lord anointed me with his blessings

Leading me always to bright success

The evil in my mind has come to an end

With the Power of god, devil is bent

His angels guard me

Holy spirit live in me

Blessed i am with his grace

His love for me is so abundance

My faith in him is unshakable

Trusting him everything is accomplish able

The Devil they say, is mighty

I know my holy Father is Almighty !

Together from the Womb! :)

From the womb we are connected,
That is where we stem from,
Ever since then,
Together we have been throwing a tantrum!

He pushes me,
I throw on him my toys,
He hates me,
And I hate these boys!

He is ill,
And I cannot sleep,
Didn't I tell you I hate him,
Then why do I weep?

That is how we are,

Just the way you are,

Every leaf is our sibling,

And the roots, the womb!

We take birth, live together,

If any one of us dies,

We mourn the loss together.

We protect each other, we protect you,

From sun, from rain,

No matter what we go through!

We fight, we crib, we rant,
Together we live, we plan,
To be happy, to grow each day,
To learn the life's lessons,
The lessons our way! :)

P.S.: This poem has been cross posted from my blog - PRAGMATIC UTOPIA.

PeAcE!!

I sit calmly
Gazing at the sea
The setting sun
The oozing serenity!

The waves caressing the sand
How could he ever let go of my hand
The tears I have in my eyes
Can never tell you my plight!

The waves roll out again
Like the pain in me time and again
They return dauntlessly
And I look at the sky complainingly!

The sun is setting
Indicating the dawn
Just the way he left me
To cry and to frown!

I am not weak
I know my might
I grow stronger
With each passing night!

The dawn brings with it
Rays of hope
For the puppets of the God
Who hold on to their rope!

Life is never the same
You can never live it with ease
I promise today
I will find that PEACE!

P.S.: I am so new to poetry, please bear with me!

Life Isn't About...!

Life isn't the bundle of roses,

Life isn't the snow clad ground,

Life isn’t all what you want,

Life isn’t all what you need,

Life isn't the melody you want to play,

Life isn't the tune you want to dance to,

Life isn’t the play you direct,

Life isn't the story you write,

Life isn’t the story you want to narrate,

Life isn't the dew you wanted to fall on the leaves,

Life isn’t your dream come true,

Life isn't the morning you desired,

Life isn’t the dusk you wished,

Life isn't the walk you want to take,

Life isn't the pages you wanted to read,

Life isn’t the game whose rules you knew,

Life isn't the guitar tune you wanted to play

Life doesn't have you as the master,

Life isn't according to your plans,

Life doesn’t follow your route,

Life isn't your walk but about your fall,

Life's isn't the red rose but the thorns attached,

Life doesn’t believe in happily after,

Life believes in death traps which are rose tinned,

Life isn’t the gamble in your favour,

Life doesn’t want the best for you,

Rather it wants you to choose what can be the best!

-------------> Nabila and Rashi<----------------

P.S. In one of the gtalk chat session, me and Rashi decided to compose something on what Life wasn't about and the result was this poem.So we post here our first combine composition :)

Remembrance

Rockstars sing along

Soothe our souls, to them we all belong

Lovers celebrate the magic of love

Create an elation, the rest despise

Lonely ones find a respite

Fulfill their empty spaces, alone despite

Oldies hold on strong

To their traditional forts

Children let everything pass by

Playing on sails ever colourful

Dos and don't for life, they all roll out

So many should-bes for life, all sold out

Drain in them sometimes, 

Forgetting all the time

That which is now,

Is the journey

That which we make tomorrow 

Is still the journey

That which passed by yesterday

Was also the journey

A travel for lifetime

The journey we all, candidly call life. 

MY LIFE...!!!

Joy
Cheer
Laughter
Happiness
Friends, Love, Family
are all the beauty of my life...!!!

hello friends...this is my first ever attempt on FIB...lemme know if its done fine....i will try n make it better..!!!