July 9, 2011
Long distance love..
"Long distance relations just don't work." They tried knocking some reason into me.
"You won't be able to hold on for long."
"Out of sight, out of mind." They bombarded us with innumerable examples..
We were watching Love Aaj Kal.. Me and my friends.. The early sequence where Deepika and Saif discuss the problems of long distance relation is running on the screen..
They say its all over the phone.. Then there is insecurity.. There comes a stage when all one does is fight and on and on and on..
I feel three pairs of eyes on me in the dark theatre.. I know what's going on their mind..
"Exactly.. Look look.. It always goes down the same line.." their eyes say it all..
I stir uncomfortably in my chair and shrug it off.. I marvel at the boldness of Deepika's character and frown at the immaturity of Saif.. In the end when both of them unite I give my friends the-evil-victorious grin!
Ok, its just a movie but its the reality of many relations. Long distance relation thrives on communication, trust and the most important PATIENCE..
It's been 4 years and still I haven't had enough of the last requirement. We frown, we argue and fight.. But we also smile, trust, support, tease, laugh and love...
I never understand why people would want to break up just because they are moving for further studies or work.. In today's times holding on to each other isn't so difficult thanks to the wonderful things called THE MOBILE PHONES, SKYPE, COURIER SERVICES etc etc..
The golden word is PATIENCE!
Unless you have enough of it don't venture into a long distance relationship.. If you love someone then don't underestimate the power of it.. The thought of losing love will give you the patience..
DISTANCE IS NOT FREEDOM TO FLING..
If you feel long distance is a good option as it gives you security of a stable relation as also the freedom to fling then think back.. If you can't hold yourself from getting attracted to someone else then simply accept that YOU ARE NOT REALLY IN LOVE WITH THE PERSON AWAY FROM YOU.. The day you realise it then it is only fair that you move out of the relation than cheat..
Ofcourse, long distance relation is not all rosy..
There are times when you wish you too had your special someone sharing the umbrella with you on a rainy day..
Times when you will envy your friends being pampered by their lovers on Valentine's day..
Times when you will be depressed you cannot celebrate your birthday with your love..
Times you will have to head back home not wishing to be kabaab me haddi when your friends plan to go out in pairs..
Times when you won't be able to fit in with your single friends nor the committed ones!
Times you will curse your luck...
Times you will feel your love is jinxed..
If you plan to stick to your partner and have a long term vision of your future then think about the endless mornings you will wake up next to your partner..
The countless nights you will cuddle up with your partner..
The many birthdays, valentine's and rainy days you will see together..
Doesn't a few years of Patience look too less a price for that??
I certainly won't be the one encouraging people to get into long distance relationship for the greater gains..its easier said than done I know.. You may be drawn to the ends of your wits.. :)
The whole point of writing this post and jotting down the good and bad side is that long distance is a feasible option and worth considering before throwing out the love that could endure and still be strong..
Physical closeness matters I agree.. But who ever said that having your love close to you would ensure a smooth love life??
By the way its been 3 years since Love Aaj Kal and as I was about to write this last line I get a call and that voice on the other end which makes me blush without reason asks me
"Do you still have fever ? Have your eyes stopped hurting ( I woke up with a boil on lower side of the eye ) ?
No distance is ever too long for two hearts that want to be together...