March 1, 2009

Kids are innocent.. *debatable*

“Children are unpredictable. You never know what inconsistency they're going to catch you in next.”

Well who ever cracked the quote probably new someone as extreme, versatile, unsteady, moody, innovative and innocent as my little sister Fiza. She is 8. She is a darling, a sweet heart and a pain in the neck (most of the times). But I can’t resist myself from admitting that she has a world of her own in which she is the Queen, a theory to prove all other existing theories wrong, a Newton in herself (only that we have to find an apple to drop on her head…ouch), a philosopher and the list goes on.

At times I wonder which type of “chemical locha” goes on in her mind that results in some of the greatest advices and immortal quotes to propound.

Here’s a piece of conversation which happened 2-3 weeks ago between her and me..

Fiza : Aapa ek baat puchu.n

Me: Pucho..

Fiza : Pehle bol..tu sharmayegi to nahi

(What..I wanted to laugh loud, wondering at the same time what is she going to ask next, I must confess I went red there itself and hid myself (acting) in pillow.)

Fiza : (irritated) main nahi puchungi..tu to Sharma gayi

Me : (controlling ma laughter) nahi pucho..main nahi sharmaungi

Fiza : (very innocently) tu jisse shaadi karegi, tune wo ladka khoj liya hai kya

(Hell..how did she knew that I was on the search for the perfect guy..lol..well I was amazed because this topic is not normally taken up in my home, my mom and dad hardly searching for a guy..*sigh*)

Me : (amazed, confused, blushing and smiling) Nahi, tum batao kaisa ladka hona chahiye

(Well I must admit, I regret asking this to her, I wanted her to stop this debate, for reason unknown, but what happened was the total reverse to it)

Fiza: Tuna jisse shaadi karna ..wo na gora hona chahiye

(:P..fairness-creams-for-men-advertisement syndrome)

Me : par teri aapa (that is me ) to sanwali hai

Fiza : haan, par ek ko to gora hona chahiye

(ohhhhhhhh kkkkkkkk…so she was aware of the genes concept and dint wanted her nephews and niece to be of my color…what else is this girl holding to blast me with..)

Me: aur …bas gora hoga to kar lun shadi

Fiza : nahi…sirf gora hone se kaam nahi chalega na aapa…wo lamba bhi hona chahiye…shailendra bhaiyya se bhi lamba

(common…I am not that tall..just average and shailendra is already 6.2 or 6.3 …well taller.. really taller than me..I already look like a kid before him..But more surprising was..this girl too has a fascination for tall guys..like a teenager reminder : she is just 8..wow..)

Me : (ofcourse now damn curious) aur?

Fiza : aur na uske paas bahut paisa hona chahiye

( :D :D :D girl..Do u think your sister is a princess that she is going to get a Prince??..Remarkable sense of financial security though..is this the CA effect??)

Me: Par zyaada paisa hoga to wo uske paas mujhse pyaar karne ka time nahi hoga

(I was sure she would not be able to answer this..I mean..whatever it is ..she is still a child..she doesn’t know the complexity of adults’ world..or is it debatable??)

Fiza : are zyaada paisa hoga to wo boss ki nahi sunega na..to wo kabhi bhi ghar aa jayega..samjhi

(*mouth wide open* this gal has made me speechless)

Aur na uska ghar bahut bada hona chahiye aur chamakna chahiye

(:P tell me kiddo..did you just saw any of Barbie or Anesthesia or so a Disney movie?? This don’t happen in real..prince..palace..marble..ya she meant marbles probably when she said “ghar chamakna chahiye” )

Me : (now in a lighter mood) par ghar chamkega to teri aapa fisal jaayegi

Fiza : nahi na wo kaanch wale jute hote haina..usse nahi fisalte..maine dekha hai TV pe..

(Sweetheart..thats TV..Ekta and Disney has corrupted this little girl’s mind *tch tch*)

Me : (exhausted with this little girl’s checklist) aur bas na?

Fiza : nahi uske ghar me bahut bahut saare log hone chahiye..aur who na jeans aur t-shirt pahanna chahiye…aur uski daadhi nahi honi chahiye..

( OK I love families..but bahut bahut saare log..This is too much..I have always lived in a nuclear family..how will I adjust?? Allah!! And t-shirts and jeans and beard..SRK fan no doubt:D :P…
P.S. I dont mind him wearing anything as far as he is neat and carries himself well)

She was chuckling after that…and even if she was speaking something I don’t think so I heard lot of it..I mean I was confused by that time, thinking on her checklist for the perfect guy. So many criteria’s, if I go up with that, I will end up marrying 5-6 guys (I bet all qualities are impossible to be found in a single guy, and even if so a guy exist, why will he marry me??). And if I decide to introduce her to a guy of my liking, will she ever accept him??

I am still wondering from where did she get this “gyan” of the perfect guy?? Who is to be blamed?? Friends, T.V., Movies, School, Parents and us?? Who?? Does she realize the depth of the topic she is speaking on??

On a serious note, marriage for me is more a relationship and ease shared by two people, it has to be build on the principle of mutual trust and belief, it’s like a bond you share with your blood related close family members, only that this time you are under the paak nikah (and related to each other by God’s will).

I don’t want my guy to be rich, fair, tall , with a big house with marble flooring, but certainly I want him to love me, to grant me my space and adore me for the person I am. Typical beauty contest answer, I know. But I bet this is what in long run will benefit you. You can’t have a relationship build on a concept as weak, mortal and ageing as beauty, money or fame. What will matter will of course be the “love”. And that what tops my checklist first, then follows our chemistry, mutual respect, financial independency and blah blah.

On the other hand if I get a mix of both the checklist ( Fiza’s and mine ) I just don’t mind. Anyone ??? :P :D :D

13 comments:

  1. hmmmm
    childrens are naughty but they learn this things from their surroundings

    fiza is a nice sweet girl

    god bless him
    and vaise bhi bacche bhagwan ka roop hote hai

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  2. Death of Intelligence and Perception !!! Effects of the modern world!!!

    No wonder your sis said that,though truly speaking she is as innocent as possible. And whatever she might have seen or listened or whatever, she told you , just for the concern of you and your well being.

    But as she grows up, she will realise things sooner or later, just like us folks.

    Kids are epitome of innocence. Its just that they see things, learn from it, try understanding them, relate to them, make their own decisions, et cetra. Sometimes, it can be quite depressing because children are exposed to such situations and circumstances. Thats the world we live in.

    And marriage, its an mystery, there is no right formula. It just happens. But as you say, its the mutual respect, sharing,caring and humbleness that will carry forward the relationship of all things. :)

    A good write, i had something simillar in mind to write down,purely my point of view. It was about how children relate and develop conscience,esp in the world of today and its perilous effects. Maybe soon :)

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  3. nice convo... looked like my mom talking to me of marriage... :)

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  4. by the way, ur sis is really sweet one... to think so much good fr u..

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  5. yeas nice convo....

    ur sister is very cute as i see it brom the convo...very matured thoughts at a very young age...

    welgum hinaa....i am the official hero of the writers lounge

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  6. Hey hina welcome aboard.. lovely conversation..thank you for sharing this one..

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  7. "On a serious note, marriage for me is more a relationship and ease shared by two people, it has to be build on the principle of mutual trust and belief, it’s like a bond you share with your blood related close family members, only that this time you are under the paak nikah (and related to each other by God’s will)."
    i second this!!!

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  8. Thanks all...wow fizu got famus...sadly she cant njoy that...anyways thanks guys for welcomin me...ll b writin more...hopefully ...if gt time ..4m ma examz :P..

    and ya desi...ur thoughts r welcome 2 :)

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  9. Huge a comment, but hope it augurs well, i get more philosophical,detailing and relating it to modern day vagaries of life :)

    forgot to say this earlier, welcome aboard hina :)... there is lot to discover here...fascinating and amazing place :) all de best for ur exams :)

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  10. tell fiza we all loved her sweet talks .. she will be happy for that only !! ;)

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  11. aww ur sis is really sweet.. :) lovely conversation must say..

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  12. hey pretty told her so...and showed her too...she asked how i know "these people in the pics"...and do they really "say"...she blushed though...

    i hope she understood that blogging has made her gyaan global ;)

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  13. woww...dat ws such a sweet conversation!! really!

    fiza is cute! ;)

    You can’t have a relationship build on a concept as weak, mortal and ageing as beauty, money or fame. What will matter will of course be the “love” -- how true! :)

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